How to End a Bad Date

How to End a Bad Date

How to End a Bad Date

Have you ever found yourself on a first date that is just horrible? You can’t seem to connect on any level or the conversation and energy in the room is making you very uncomfortable. You just want to end this date as soon as possible but don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings. Is there a way to do it pleasantly? Usually not.

I have found that the best way to keep the others persons feelings intact and to not cause any scene is to be very honest and direct so that you aren’t misleading or making up any excuses to end the date.

Here are a few suggestions for weary daters:

• Let them know that they don’t seem to be the type of person that you are looking for.


• If you want to be more casual about it let them know that you think that you both could find someone who is more compatible with each other and how hard that has been for you.


• Tell them simply that you don’t think that this is going to work and that you don’t want to waste their time and they should appreciate your honesty.

What do you do after you have this uncomfortable conversation? It is usually good to just part ways and to leave separately. Call a cab or a friend to come pick you up if you both came together. It’ll just make the situation more comfortable faster by doing this.

If the date is going bad right from the start and you are catching negative vibes then I suggest you just cut things short and both of you will be able to walk away with minor bruises. I think that most daters can appreciate the honesty over being lead on or left confused or wondering.

I usually recommend keeping your fist dates very casual in public settings so that if anything goes wrong it makes for an easier exit. Coffee shop dates or luncheons are great first dates for this exact reason. You can slip out and be done with the nightmare before it scars you from the dating scene. Happy dating and remember to be direct and honest.

-Brian R.